Unholy sex list of new and creative ways to heat things up in the bedroom.
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Give and receive nights. Some rules: The giver cannot receive on the same night as when he gives. Penetrative sex is off the table. And the recipient can make two requests for what they would like to receive, the giver gets to negotiate what they are willing to give.
Buy your lover a gift: some intimate clothing or some sexy jewelry. You should be waiting for your lover wearing nothing but the gift when they return home from their day.
Surprise your partner by decorating the kitchen and cooking dinner based on a specific theme/country. A night in Italy! One night in Thailand! One night in Peru! Mmmmm!
Spend your playtime at night touching and exploring, but without words! Speak through touch and silence.
Give your partner a sensual massage. With no reason. Use lots of body oil all over your body. And use more than your hands to massage (forearms, breasts, be creative!)
Light some candles and take a hot bubble bath together. Bonus points for adding sexy music, chocolate, wine, or waterproof vibrating sex toys. A good silicone lubricant like Unholy Lube will be a great addition.
Handwrite love letters to each other on elegant stationery. Seal it with a kiss.
Play the word game. Say a sensual/arousing/erotic word, and then your lover can say a word in response. Repeat as long as you want and get excited!
Learn to say sexy phrases to yourself in another language. Choose 5-6 words or phrases and have sex while only saying those words/phrases.
It destroys nerve endings that are not always touched. Spend a night SLOWLY kissing and nibbling her neck and ears, eventually combining with hands and fingers stimulating her breasts, nipples, etc., from behind.
Share three appreciations with your partner. Then ask them to share three things they appreciate about you. Lastly, share three fears and then three hopes. See what happens!
Make a record of your sex life. Start with what really works and is awesome, then move on to what you'd like to do or experience more (if any).
Steam kiss your lover's sexy parts (like when you clean your sunglasses by fogging them with your breath). Try to avoid touching them by floating your lips and sensually kissing their entire body.
Plan seemingly impossible adventures: what do you want to do together? Then set a date for them to happen.
Melt your favorite chocolate and use brushes to paint on your lover's body. Then lick her body (but avoid the vulva/vagina if the chocolate has sugar).
Blindfold your partner and then use feathers, makeup brushes, and other soft household items to lightly tickle the erogenous zones. Ask your partner to “mmmm” if something feels really good. Be creative. Look around the house and try different things. Bonus points for adding a few items that might provide a little sting or bite (but ask your partner first).
Hugs. They never go out of style. Get into a spoon position and align your breathing. Do this for 5-10 minutes in silence to enter into a deeper connection.
Gently bathe your partner with a bath scrub, soft loofah, and your favorite luxury soap. Then rinse thoroughly and dry your entire body with a soft towel. Finish by applying moisturizing body cream.
Wash your lover's hair by giving him a nice, long head massage while shampooing.
Kiss and lick words on each other's bodies, and then try to guess the words. Bonus points for licking action words and then having your partner act them out or perform them on you instead of verbally guessing.
Give oral sex to your lover while he prepares dinner or washes the dishes.
Sit opposite each other with your hands on each other's hearts. Meditate on the sensations and breathe for 10 minutes.
Kiss and lick all around the tailbone, lower back and sides.
Explore mutual masturbation. Ask your lover to delight himself while you watch and delight yourself at the same time. Maybe it's a good idea to make a mental note of the way your partner likes to be touched.
Make a date night to go to a nearby sex shop, with the intention of buying something new to go home and try.
Take a sex education class together.
Take a dance class together.
Cook and have dinner one night in your underwear (or naked). And then dance like your lover in his underwear.
Leave love notes all over the house for your lover. Bonus points for packing it in your suitcase when you go on a (business) trip.
Get naked and play! Dance naked, fight naked, hug each other, give yourself a naked massage and put it all together by giving each other orgasms.
Give your partner a pedicure. Washing and rubbing your feet performs a foot massage… to increase the heat, allow your hands to travel upwards
Give your partner a manicure. Rub and soak your hands. Follow with a massage. Play with different types of touch, including feather touch. Run your finger very lightly in front and behind all of your partner's fingers and palm. Turn up the heat by using your mouth to lick and suck on your fingers.
Spend 5 minutes staring in silence.
Try role-playing. Explore what people you can take on. Go with whatever turns you on, or you can be more creative and become animals or fictional creatures.
Take weekly sunset walks to relax and reconnect. Or if you're a morning person, sit quietly with your partner having coffee or tea while you watch the sunrise.
Hug and hold him until you can both really feel each other's heartbeats.
Do 5 minutes of side-by-side yoga. Then 3 minutes of breathing side by side. Turn up the heat by wearing lingerie, or nothing at all.
Go on a bike ride, but on one that's built for two.
Read erotic literature together. Or better yet! Write an erotic story for your partner to read with you.
Watch an instructional video on sex education together. Then practice it.
Listen to podcasts or e-books with sexual themes together.
Plan a 24-hour stay where they pretend they are without power. Turn off all phones and electronic devices (except some music on your phone's speaker), turn off all lights, and only use candles. Start a fire in the fireplace if you have one. And let the connection begin!
Spread all the body oil on your lover and then use your body to give them a massage.
Turn your naked body into a tray for your partner to eat on.
Place mirrors next to the bed and admire yourself while you play.
Create something together! Join a book group, hold a workshop, a theme gathering, a community offering, anything that gets you working together with creative ideas flowing.
Look for a book like “101 Nights of Great Sex” or “101 Creative Ideas for a More Sensual Connection,” and commit to doing 1-2 a week.
Turn on your TV with some porn and use the audio to pretend that there are other people having sex in the same room as you.
Play with limits. Decide together on a time frame in which to continue bringing each other closer to orgasm, but don't take them over the top until the time is up. It could be an hour, it could be a week.
Make a list of all the places you would love to have sex. Cities, outdoors, different places around the house, etc. Then start tackling that list!
Play “Strip Twister” (the game with colored circles). Or “Strip Poker”. Or “Strip anything”…
Sit on your partner's lap, facing each other. Rule: your partner cannot touch you with his or her own hands. Only you can guide them to where you want them to go in your body. Play with this for a while and switch roles. Take note of how your partner likes to be touched.
Make a sexual activities jar. Keep putting in fantasies, ideas and suggestions as you think about them. Whenever you feel like you want to heat things up, pull one out.
Play the temperature game. Alternate between using your warm mouth and cooled hands (via ice water) to touch your partner.
Make rest sexy. After an intimate moment with your partner, ask him or her to describe his or her account of what just happened as if you were bragging to a good friend.
Try to describe each movement or sensation that is happening in the present moment: "I'm touching your A and it feels B. I see you rubbing your C, and I want D." Not only will this create presence, but it can also work as hot sexy talk (also known as dirty talk).
Explore erotic storytelling. Set a timer for 2 minutes and then one person can start an erotic story with everyone present. After the 2 minutes, reset the timer so the next person can add to the story. Do this until you get so turned on that you can't keep your hands off each other.
Do you have difficulty talking about fantasies? Write your own erotic novel with you and your lover, and then read it to them or leave it somewhere for them to discover.
Let your inner primal animal come out! Have sex where both partners are only allowed to act and sound like an animal of their choosing.
Blindfold and tie your partner's hands (with consent, of course) and then ask them to verbally guide you by telling you everything they want you to do (this also helps strengthen communication skills).
Get artsy and make a vision board of your future life together. Have fun with it while inspiring everything you want to create side by side. Don't forget to add a sexy vacation or two to the mix.
Relive or recreate your first date again. Retell the story. Set the scene. Pretend it's the first day you met and do it all over again.
Give your partner a full body naked massage. Step 1: Everyone gets naked. Step 2: Invite your lover to lie face down and then apply massage oil to the entire back of their body. Step 3: Use your whole body to massage them. Hands, forearms, breasts, feet… be creative!
Add hot lava play to your full-body naked massage: Have the lighter or smaller person climb on top of your partner's rear as if it were an island they must stay on and anything off the island ( the bed, floor, massage table, etc.) is hot lava (meaning the top person is touching nothing but the bottom person's body). Use the pressure and weight of your entire body to rub, massage, and knead your partner while trying to keep skin-to-skin contact.
Go to your nearest health food store and buy all the fruits you've never tried before and then cut them up and seductively give them to each other.
Dance for your lover. Take an S-Factor, Poledance, Bellydance or any other sensual dance class and then do a mini performance at home. Don't you have those classes in your region? YouTube is the solution and then practical.
